We may not consider it, but the people we have around us as friends or mere acquaintances are vastly different from us.
Do not regard foreigners, people of the opposite gender, or people of a different tongue to be only those who have clearly varying personalities from us.
Regarding family members, work associates, societal groups, or even next-door neighbors to be just like us is a great mistake to make.
Identical twins as you may see it, have acute variances both on outward expressions as well as inward expressions.
That said, understand that as you embark to know people, they would present to you distinct personalities that may have no agreement with your personality or expectations.
Viewing people from this point of stance is a very potent way to drive results for yourself, pertaining to whatever analysis or inferences you like to gather.
So first, as you make a point to view others; view them with a perspective from a low level of subjectivity, and give room to consider them from an external perspective so that, there’ll be no bias or bigotry with your approach.
Humans may not be only known my looking at the background or cultural influences, rather they possess unique qualities and mannerisms which can be detected only by careful analysis, or deliberate attempts initiated to understand them.
We are different with varying personalities, so close associates may have a clue as to the true attributes we possess. However, even close people we share relationship with may miss to apprehend the deep complex nature of ourselves.
This is logically understood by twins ultimately finding different love mates who lived in different place of residents, and what have you.
To be able to understand others and have influence with them, there is the need for you to make a conscious effort to appreciate the perspective they see things.
Without taking them from their point of view, there is a sure failure in reaching an understanding of their personality.
Taste and preferences we have with food and clothing are accurate indicators that each individual is unique, distinct and wholly personal.
Naturally, when we are living in the same neighborhood with close associates, an outsider or foreigner would like to approach that unique someone from a standpoint that is equally bias. Say; he or she would like to call him by his ethical affiliation, or national identity.
However, there’s more to the individual than vague descriptions of attachments on him. To make my explanation simple, I would like to say that; people who start a one-time encounter with an individual fail much in their judgments.
There has to be conscious techniques initiated to be able to conclude on average descriptions of individuals.
Speeches are not the way, gestures are not enough, and close associates would not take us there.
Therefore the art of knowing others, require a much thorough investigation, and research gathering to be able to make firm ideologies upon one soul.
The way we would like to make people know us require carefulness on the individual, and we are well aware of that fact. Therefore, this is a valid proof that we need meticulous examination of others to be able to tell if they are outgoing or less approachable.
Introverts have traces of approachability on them. Extroverts also; they have traces of reservation. So resources gathering from family and friends may be less than adequate when it comes to the distinct kind of individual we are making an inference on.
Let us say for instance; a grade 6 student, he or she has firm knowledge when it comes to maths, however, there is weakness when it comes to science.
Can we adults conclude the student can be a better mathematician than a scientist? We may never be able to conclude, thus, if I must answer here.
There are countless number of individuals who diverted from their academic qualifications, when it came to real life work pursuit. Therefore, we are unique, and as each human being we are highly sophisticated.
A month sample of our general behavior is not enough grounds to group our individualities, pairing them with others.
It is imperative for an individual to make his or her personal examination. Research answering which that individual must take careful time to do, is one good way to begin the classification of that individual.
Let’s allow people to give examination on us. People ridicule us at times, praise us at times, and even appear bored around us, also, at times.
Do we take all those talks we have with them seriously? If I can be accurate, we left most, and continue… sticking to our intentions, attitudes and personal mannerisms.
So if we are good at behaving so, what makes us think a fellow colleague of others ignores doing the same.
That’s why people are different. We are separate and distinct when it comes to our mission and vision.
Speaking to ourselves carries less weight with where the world is going. That is to say, family and friends would give less attention to us.
That notwithstanding, Speaking about others possess acute influences on the world.
So let’s say; each individual is applying this same strategy in his day to day business: he talks more about others, which he may or may not know adequately, and likewise speaks to himself for personal motivation and natural inspiration.
Inferences here is that, we define others in our own world. But that approach is faint, so the benefits are futile for us.
Behave from the point of view of that individual and try to read things from the person’s perspective of viewing things and see the drastic improvements in understanding people, and trying to stick as good partners with them.
Never would we gain the favor of people, or make headway in our personal projects if we fail to take a close look at who individuals are, and what they may be interested in when it comes to how they would like to share attention with us.
Difference in individual attitudes all the same, are clearly visible when it comes to age, nationality, and ethical affiliations.
Nonetheless, these are not our true natures. Our true natures lie from within, and we are responsible of how we share it with the world. Influence on others never comes easy.
First and foremost, we are naturally distinct; and taking care of our own personality presents us a few headaches.
But we can make headway; we can ensure to separate our own natures from that of others whiles ensuring that our personal natures receives acceptance in the eyes of many individuals we may encounter.
I am different, clearly distinguishable from my friend.
But am I appreciated in the sight of my friend. So let’s stop and ask ourselves the same question, from a comrade’s perspective we want to know deeper.
Does he appreciate me?
This is the battle every single soul is facing. He wants to know if he is appreciated, and that, would he be approved by friends and family from his own point of view.
We have issues; there are battles, and there is more to be done.
A clear indicator is the presence of wars and conflicts.
But let’s see, if we are patient to take each individual from his or her own perspective.
Would war arise? Clearly not.
So if we are different, unique and visibly distinct, let us take our time when concluding on the attributes an individual may possess or may not adequately possess.
And lastly, let us connect ourselves well with a targeted individual we want to clearly know. For with much patience that result would not be futile, but rather, may result in long-term personal relationship with the individual; drastically influencing our personal pursuits as well as his.